32 and Counting…

Red Rocks '09 (Photo: Graham Lucas)

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Jam of the Day:

Tweezer > Ha Ha Ha > Sleeping Monkey” 7.2.95 II

A classic, late-set sequence from the penultimate night at Sugarbush ’95.

[audio:http://phishthoughts.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/Tweezer-_.mp3,http://phishthoughts.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/Ha-Ha-Ha-_.mp3,http://phishthoughts.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/Sleeping-Monkey.mp3]

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DOWNLOAD OF THE DAY:

12.31.92 Matthews Arena, Boston, MA < Megaupload

12.31.92 Matthews Arena, Boston, MA < Torrent

Carrying the momentum from this past Weekend’s Nuggets, this New Year’s Eve show completes the 1992 holiday run, as the 30th is already in the archives.

I: Buried Alive > Poor Heart, Maze, Bouncing Around the Room, Rift, Wilson, The Divided Sky, Cavern, Foam, I Didn’t Know, Run Like an Antelope

II: Runaway Jim, It’s Ice, Sparkle, Colonel Forbin’s Ascent > Fly Famous Mockingbird, My Sweet One > Big Ball Jam, Stash, Glide, Good Times Bad Times

III: Mike’s Song > Auld Lang Syne > Weekapaug Groove, Harpua > Kung > Harpua, The Squirming Coil, Diamond Girl*, Llama

E: Carolina**, Fire

*Debut and only appearance; w/ Dude of Life

** unmiced

Source: Neumann RSM 191 @ 125deg XY >SV 255

366 Responses to “32 and Counting…”

  1. ChefBradford Says:

    http://channelate.com/2009/11/25/spelling-bee/

  2. snowbank Says:

    LLFA @ Spelling Bee

    Here is a link to a local band. Their shows are fun:
    http://www.myspace.com/yogomanburningband

  3. Mr.Miner Says:

    ticket dude sounds shady.

  4. Mr. Completely Says:

    I agree that the most preferable method of ruining a scammer’s day is to waste his time a lot. drag it out. see if you can scam him back somehow.

    there’s a great story out there somewhere about a guy that got one of the “nigerian prince” scam operators to send HIM a check up front somehow

  5. halcyon Says:

    the 419 scam….This American Life has a podcast about the scams, and scamming the scammers.

  6. Mr.Palmer Says:

    Vegas in Oct. ? Anyone hearing this?

  7. sneven Says:

    okay, not feeling much better. A little drunk now, but the grass is cut, so I think its okay.

    I’ve never been a motorcycle guy, never owned one or ridden one on the street (been on a dirt bike on trails and such.)

    Why would anyone risk not wearing a helmet?

    Help, I feel like crap…

  8. Gavinsdad Says:

    Trey in a plexiglass box in his hotel room being let out to pee by his wife while in Vegas. Anyone hear this?

  9. ChefBradford Says:

    sneven, I really don’t know what to say. Keep on truckin’, celebrate your friend’s life the best you can

  10. halcyon Says:

    Sneven…condolences friend. Celebrate his life, be thankful for knowing him his short time in this existence.

  11. Mr.Palmer Says:

    Hang in there sneven. I happen to agree with you re: motorcycles.. never liked them . Very dangerous.

    LLFA@ gavins… I don’t think Trey will be rocking that party suite at the top of the Mandalay Bay like the last run. I have to figure out how to make this happen if true.

  12. sneven Says:

    Again, thanks everyone for the condolences…

    I still can’t grasp how a grown man (50+) with two teenage children refused to wear a helmet…

  13. ohhphee Says:

    @sneven

    This may or may not help you to feel better, but to attempt to answer your question I will say this: the reason people risk not wearing a helmet is the same reason some folks B.A.S.E. jump or skydive or climb mountains. They don’t want to feel ordinary. Ordinary people don’t take risks. If life weren’t risky in some way or another, the question is: would it be worth even being born? So, most of us take risks one way or another because it makes us feel like we’re really alive. Some of us take a more direct route to risky. Like living more dangerously than most. Others take risks that aren’t life and death, necessarily, but are important nonetheless. Maybe your friend left us knowing he lived a life less ordinary.

  14. voidboy Says:

    @sneven,

    I’m sorry to hear about your friend. I come from a family of motorcycle riders and all have had their problems when it comes to the road. This doesn’t excuse what happened or forgive the tragedy and hurt you are feeling. For me, when I experience these moments, I try and focus on the positive energy they brought into my life. In this way I realize how they are a part of me and how they helped me become the person that I am today.

  15. Mr. Completely Says:

    I lost one of my closest friends at 19 on a cycle, helmet didn’t help him, you can’t be sure it would have helped your friend, though I’m not surprised at your shock at his terrible choice

    a lot of bike riders feel like helments are stupid and don’t really make a difference much of the time – not true, but I’ve heard it many times

    also some people kind of want to die, deep inside

    I hesitate to say this next part because I don’t have time to follow up but to try to get to the point here

    one of the hardest things when we lose someone is if it happens in a way that we feel angry with them

    no one wants to feel angry at someone that just died! it makes us feel totally shitty to do that!

    but we can’t help it. why didn’t he wear the fucking helmet? In my case recently: why didn’t he ever cut out the fucking blow, once he hit 40 if not before? etc

    it’s totally normal for you to feel super weird right now. not just grief, but anger, and guilt at feeling angry…? that’s kind of what it sounds like.

    fucking sucks, dude. nothing you can say to make it better, but try to do your best for the ones he left behind and – when the pain recedes – just carry the good parts of his memory forward with you.

    And as I often say – wisdom is learning from the mistakes of others. So use this harsh lesson to try to gain some wisdom. Is there anything you do that’s the equivalent of not wearing a helmet? I know I’ll think about that today, due to your story. Maybe stop doing one dumb-shit thing you sometimes do, in his memory. We all have something.

    Peace to you my friend, and healing. Remember that pain heals faster if you don’t run from it. Feel what you’re feeling and honor him that way too.

  16. Mr. Completely Says:

    I’m surprised Trey isn’t banned permanently from Vegas as a condition of his probie

  17. Mr. Completely Says:

    …and wait what? when is Trey gonna be in Vegas? did I miss something?

  18. sneven Says:

    thank you ohhphee, voidboy, mr. C, and everyone else… rough day.

    I like ohphee’s take on it, and maybe that’s the way I should look at it.

    Dude was as chill as can be, anyone would have to try to put any hate on him.

    Maybe his thrill outweighed the risk.

    Smoke a phatty for Rick Rash tonight, or pour out a splash for him on the curb.

    He was like a friend-dad to me and alot of others my age (32,) and won’t go quietly into that night…

    R.I.P.

    Okay, we can drop it now, hate to bring down the board…

    but please, wear your helmet if your ride, and when you drive, look twice!! Save a LIFE!!

  19. Stupendous a.k.a The Beasel Says:

    great post C
    happy to have you back!

  20. Gavinsdad Says:

    Your not bringing down the board in any way Sneven. Many many people have reached out here to get a hand to hold thru the trying times and the good times. This place consistently reminds me that there are good eggs in the world and that life is ever changing. So tonite, a hogleg for Rick Rash it is.

  21. Mr.Palmer Says:

    …this has all been wonderful, but now i’m on my way….

  22. Dr. Pronoia Says:

    Very sorry to hear of your loss Sneven. I’m left thinking about those two teenage kids…

    Mr C, as usual, is right. In the end there’s no alternative to feeling what you’re feeling, and being honest with yourself about that is the fastest way to let the next thing, whatever it is, change your mindset.

  23. SillyWilly Says:

    Just checking in for the first time today.

    Deepest condolences, sneven.

    I’ve never been that close to a death. I guess Im extremely lucky or young or a combination of both.

    My girl’s mother, however, passed away when my girl was 13. My girl’s the baby of 5. The only biological daughter.

    She doesn’t talk much about it, obviously, but the one thing she said (exactly like Mr. C^) is that you have to feel what you have to feel. As Im becoming closer to her family and hearing more and more about her mother’s death I realize my girl has plenty of things to be bitter about. First, her dad and older siblings never told her how sick her mom was. They always reassured her she was getting better even to a couple of days before her death (eventhough they knew her cancer was terminal).

    Second, one of her aunts forced my girl to let go of her mother’s hand in the last moments. Telling her, Leave her be. Let her go.

    However, my girlfriend harbors no resentment. She said at first she felt many things. I mean imagine facing adolescence as a 13 yr old girl with no mother. But, she said the key was feeling those feelings and facing them and you find that they fade away sooner that way.

    On Sunday, my girl sent a card to my mother saying how much my mom reminds her of hers, and how she wished the two best women in her life could meet.

    I started crying on my dad’s shoulder when he showed me the card. writing a card like that must have taken incredible strength on my girl’s part. I mean just to face those old feelings.

    I guess Im just telling you this sneven as a hopeful story that the pain will recede.

  24. Dr. Pronoia Says:

    ^^ Sorry didn’t mean to drop into shrink mode, but NOTHING is harder to get your head and feelings around than unexpected loss.

    My wife lost her father very early, unexpectedly, and each of her siblings has handled it very differently. The best adjusted of them seem to remind themselves often that we have, ultimately, a very short life and we don’t know when it’s going to be over. I think that fact that we all congregate here hints that we’ve made choices to prioritize small moments of beauty and community, and unity of spirit. These moments seem like the counterbalance of tragedy, and let’s hope your friend has found peace and rest.

  25. Dr. Pronoia Says:

    ^ Silly – weird mind-meld my Badger brother

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