Going Alone

If you find yourself with a ticket to a show this summer, but nobody to go with, just go, because who knows what could happen.

I’ve only arrived to one Phish show alone—11.17.97—and it fundamentally changed the course of my life. I graduated in Spring ’97 and come Fall, my closest show-going cohorts of ’95 and ’96 were off doing other things. Thus, Fall ’97 represented a transition in my Phish life. I planned to do different parts of the tour with different friends, and I was planning on going to the Denver shows with my non-Phish buddy, Leaguer. After a particularly hectic first night, suffice it to say, he had no desire to go back to the circus. Thus, I brewed up some mushroom tea at his Boulder apartment, put it in a Nalgene bottle for the show and headed down to Denver on my own.

I had a floor ticket for the evening, but when I went to my seat, I noticed plenty open up ahead. I walked up a section or two and found an aisle seat, asked if it was taken and sat down. As is usually the case, these guys told me they weren’t in their seats either, but I was welcome to stay there. We talked before the show for a while, officially meeting each other. Then the lights dropped and the infamous first set started with “Tweezer.” Taking gargantuan Phish jams to the dome one after another, we all bounced behind the seats into the larger space in between sections and blew it up. After the set ended, a bunch of their friends found their way to the floor and I met a series of people that I would never remember the next day, let alone the next hour. I hung out with the original two people I had met for the whole show, said good bye and went on my way back to Leaguer’s.

Fast-forward to Cleveland two weeks later. In a story far too absurd to get into, I broke away from the girl I went to the show found a platform to rage on my own. In the middle of the first set someone surprised me by saying my name and passing me a bowl. I turned around, not recognizing the person at all, and he explained that he had met me back in Denver during setbreak. Things immediately made sense and we hung out and raged the set together. For reasons still to absurd to get into, I had every desire to find some some new people to hang out with, and joined them behind the stage during setbreak to puff joints. I re-met the same guy and girl—Jon and Sarah—that I sat next to in Denver. I continued meeting people from their extensive group of friends—all from their hometown—and I got along well with all of them. I wound up hanging out with some form of their group of friends for the next couple shows before they hopped off. Good peeps.

Fast Forward to Europe ’98. Jon—the original guy I met in Denver—was spending the summer in Prague, and we met up at The Grey Hall on the first night of tour in Copenhagen. As we introduced each other to our respective friends, one of the guys I met that night became my tour comrade and co-psychonaut through 2009, and one of the girls I met became my wife. Ever since that Europe tour, I, more or less, merged with their extensive group of friends for the duration of 1.0, 2.0, beyond Phish tour, and still to this day.

SO…if you don’t have a partner in crime for any given Phish show this summer, you should go anyway—you just might find your wife!



Everyone was a noob at one point, and we all sought information about the scene from anywhere and everywhere. Just recently, fan, Brent Nichols, sent me a link to “Phish: A Guide For Beginners” that he had written. If you’re reading this blog, odds are you don’t need to read his, but his piece serves as a great resource for that person in your life who just won’t listen to you about your favorite band. Check it out…

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357 Responses to “Going Alone”

  1. The Flesh Says:

    and the 59 min Runaway Jim begins….. 3 days.

  2. MiA Says:

    Ferrari Carrano (sp) Merlot. 2007.

    Bought a bag a “expensive” finch bird seed in a sock. Feed my backyard friends. My beagle found it and jumped 6+’ into the air. Ripped the bottom out and at over 1 lb of birdseed.

  3. tzara's Says:

    Starting at the 12/28/98 Carini, good stuff. Busting open some Chinon 2009. Probably shouldn’t be left unsupervised like this.

  4. Plord Says:

    MiA I’m feelin ya. My daughter lives to spread birdseed around the yard. But rescue dog #2 came from a hoarding situation, like the woman had 50 dogs, and he will eat ANYTHING at any time with all the urgency of an animal who went a long time without food and always fears that the bad old days will return.

    So she chases him. And he avoids her, running with his lower lip on the ground to scoop up sunflower seeds and stuff. It is hysterical but you can’t laugh because the daughter is so upset.

    It occurs to me that we just wound up in an episode of coffee talk. Daughters and dogs. Where’s my chocolate?

  5. vegas wolfmans Says:

    TGhost- You hitting any shows? Only Dick’s for me. I’m coming down to the Seanasty for Tedeschi Trucks in June. Anything else on your radar? Furthur at WAMU doesn’t interest me. And yes, 12/28/98 Carini is the heat.

  6. vegas wolfmans Says:

    Note to self: It is June.

  7. angryjoggerz Says:

    You ladies…

  8. Snigglebeach Says:

    Just a correction. Shakedown is always on Waldo st. Someone’s map link is off a block and a half.

    That spot is where the red trucks are right now.

  9. tzara's Says:

    Wassup, flarrwolf. I’m kneedeep in the dankness that is that wolfman’s after carini. was thinking about Tinariwen at the Showbox on the 12th. Other than that, not much happening. Dick’s is a big maybe, no plans yet. It’s up to Phish to make me go I guess.

  10. GhostPhunk Says:

    @jdub Are you around for these two? Be great to see you if so.

  11. vegas wolfmans Says:

    Sucks having to wait till the end of Leg II to catch any shows, but life has intervened and forced my hand (summer school, etc…). Maybe we’ll cross paths one of these days.

    ::cues up 12/28/98 remaster, applies headphones, cranks to 11::

  12. Dr Pronoia Says:

    thanks for the GoT perspective, DocGanz

    People I really respect love the books and the show, and I liked season one, but this season just seemed like it made me learn a million names and keep track of about 18 subplots with very, very, very little payoff

    But I generally like boobs and baby dragons, and Mad Men doesn’t start til 10, so…

  13. tzara's Says:

    Totally, @vw, if you ever find yourself in SEA for a little prefunk, let me know. I’ll keep my eye out for any other good shows. Tinariwen sound interesting to you?

  14. voopa Says:

    Just watched Mad Men myself. Fucking incredible. It’s the only drama we watch, and one of only like half a dozen network shows we watch regularly. Guess I should take advantage of the fact that I’m paying for HBO…

  15. Dr Pronoia Says:

    Ha. If you want to know who I spend all day talking to professionally, Girls is a pretty fair representation

  16. vegas wolfmans Says:

    Mad Men is brilliant- I wait for Netflix to edit out commercials, so I’m a season behind. Best thing since The Wire IMO.

    @TG- Hell yes it sounds interesting. Sadly, I have my last final on the morning of the 13th in the Hammer. At times like these, I question my decision to go back to school. My triple lindy is rounding into form, though. (Worst body double ever?)


  17. xpun Says:

    Whats up guys. If anyone hasn’t before or didn’t today click on the link in miner’s post above, it’s a great read.

    love the prince adam tripping balls

    25 responses in the early days, the west coasters probably don’t see that few first thing in the morning these days. Nice the community here has grown.

    btb is an oldschool bber. nice

  18. BingosBrother Says:

    Those comments in The Leaguer thread are awesome. Poor Leaguer. He had a bad time.

  19. vegas wolfmans Says:

    @Bingos Brother- Saw your post last night and added David Rawlings “A Friend of a Friend” to my mediafire. He is Gillian Welch’s guitar player/ life partner/ right-hand man. He cut a solo record a few years ago that is the shit- she sings and plays on it too. Highly recommend.

  20. xpun Says:

    also read the “guide” link. Like miner said not really anything for most of us but well written. I liked his analogy of phish to a baseball team and we are the ones that like to watch all the games and check the box scores the next day.

  21. DaNcInG fOoL Says:

    Hey Palmer, stop doubting the Kings, fool.

  22. xpun Says:

    Liam Says:
    November 17th, 2008 at 4:31 pm

    Mr. Miner,

    The best part about this site is that you’re actually a pretty good writer so you don’t come off as a jackass when reviewing or telling stories. I really appreciate that. Thanks

    ^^love this, so true

  23. BingosBrother Says:

    Thanks Vegas! Thats so nice of you! Downloading now. Dude is a perfect partner in crime for her. lends sweet backing vocals and intricate fingerpicking. My wife and kids are hooked as of today also. Thanks again!

  24. Phamily Berzerker Says:


    Too late?

  25. DaNcInG fOoL Says:

    Girls is the best show on TV right now.

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